Asking for a friend:
How far do you go when calling someone out? What do you say? How would you deliver the call-out? Who would you call-out?
I vividly remember my first call-out, it was purely reflex, and I was surprised I did it. When I was 12, I decided to try out for the school’s netball team (got cut after a week). One day, we were queuing up, and one of the older girls said something negative with regards to a male teacher. I turned around and said, ‘why don’t you mind your own business.’ and she said, ‘catch you falling self*.’
I said nothing after that, but I was thinking about whether if it was my place to say something. From that moment, I stayed away from saying anything unless there was some verbal confirmation to do otherwise. I usually have full authority to go out on my friends, but I know it’s reciprocated. Sometimes I don’t say anything cause we all stubborn together and my words would be wasted. However, that goes out the window when it’s time to say I told you so.
I love it when people call me out: professional or otherwise. I appreciate knowing that people care enough to correct me when I’ve done something I shouldn’t be doing. I’m a firm believer that “ignorance is NOT bliss, it dangerous,” so I’m ready to learn. However, I don’t like it when someone feels the need to belittle me in their call-out.
In a professional setting; it would include shouting, using inappropriate work language, throwing me under the bus. In an intimate environment: shouting!! However, if we are close, I would allow those things if I did something stupid.
I’m all about growing from my mistakes, so I don’t mind anyone correcting me (as long as they’re respectful). I have my reservations when it comes to calling people out because they may not be as open-minded and might curse me out!
*mind your funky business
Pax et Felicitatem,
Nomadic Mind Wanderer