Serving the betterment of Society! — Inspiration HERE (Repost)

This post ties in well with the theme for this week “Patience

Understanding the difference between a want and a need will make it easier to decide what things are worth chasing vs waiting for in life.

If the mind and mouth belong to the body, what belongs to the soul? We speak of infinite tales of mankind and its growth. We speak boldly of integrity and justice. We assert our views and want to see developments likewise. Here is the problem, All of these end up becoming our wants and not […]

Serving the betterment of Society! — Inspiration HERE

Beatus Manifestationes,
Nomadic Free Spirit

How To Maintain Your Privacy As A Blogger (Repost)

Here is the link to the post.

I know may not have much to worry about but it’s always good to think about these thing. I saw this post by New Lune and it reminded me about the importance of internet safety. I show so much parts of myself and don’t think twice about cause I think it will never happen to me. I don’t what could happen so I’m making the extra effort.

Beatus Manifestationes,
Nomadic Free Spirit

IG vs DG

Is wanting everything instantly beneficial to you? Chances are if you said yes, you are setting yourself for failure. The world bombards you with messages that promote instant desires regularly. For instance, you’ll see a before and after photo of someone who lost weight or “the rags to riches” story. People focus so much on the finished product that they forget the journey that led up to that point. For those who are not familiar with the terms, I’ll go into detail.

Instant gratification is wanting a successful outcome as quickly as possible. For example (and I’m sure we’re all guilty of this):

  • scrolling through social media to see the likes on posts
  • getting junk food when you know you’ll regret it later.

These activities are desirable because dopamine is released, which gives you a temporary burst of happiness. When the “high” wears off, you go back to feeling normal again. To maintain this feeling, you keep repeating the cycle. You may not think it’s detrimental to indulge but think about those resolutions you made; what’s the progress? It’s just keeping you in the short term mindset with no form of security to prepare for later months.

Delayed gratification, on the other hand, is putting in the effort now so you can obtain a successful outcome in the future. Examples are:

  • completing a course or degree
  • noticing progress after maintaining a workout regiment

It requires effort and sacrifice to attain your goals. It may be hard at times when you experience “failure” but not giving up forces your mind to adapt to counteract the diversions.

A well-known study of instant vs delayed gratification is the Stanford Marshmallow Experiment. The study was conducted in 1972 by psychologist Walter Mischel. Children were given a marshmallow (or preferred treat) and told they could eat the marshmallow now (instant gratification) or wait fifteen minutes to get another marshmallow (delayed gratification). Follow up studies showed that the children who practised delayed gratification obtained better life outcomes than those who opted to eat the marshmallow.

So I ask the question again; Is wanting everything instantly beneficial to you? Take some time to think about the long term effects before indulging in that guilty pleasure.

Beatus Manifestationes,
Nomadic Free Spirit

Words Hurt as Well as Sticks and Stones (Part I)

Have you ever wondered why certain words are spelt or pronounced the way they are even though it doesn’t seem logical? I was often confused as well until I stumbled on a lecture about etymology. Etymology is the study of the origin of words and how their meanings have changed throughout history.

I found this fascinating as it was revealed to me that English is a mix of other languages with “English pronunciations” and these words are rooted in primarily Greek and Latin words, and these Greek and Latin words were probably rooted in some ancient language and the cycle continues. Every time I found a word, I would search; at times it was clear, but other times I was sent down the rabbit hole to find the “original” meaning.

One word that had me more aware than ever was the word “spelling.” When I did my research, I saw lots of videos that said that this word is rooted in the word spells. When words are said negatively, it can purposefully put a curse on someone. This thought brought me back to the phrase “self-fulfilling prophesy”; you repeat something terrible about yourself, and ultimately, it becomes real. On the flip side, when words are said positively, one can essentially bless themselves and attract opportunities. This ties in with the “law of attraction” and “putting things out in the universe” which are quite popular recently. Therefore, when you say “I am…”, you are bringing blessings to yourself and attracting opportunities.

I hope you found this as interesting as I did.

Beatus Manifestationes,
Nomadic Mind Wanderer🦋🦉

Generational Curses 102: Parenting Styles

This post was inspired by a video I saw on Instagram which talks about “Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome.” It gives a brief explanation about why parents (descendants of slaves) behave the way they do. I found it quite insightful and helped me understand why I experienced certain things growing up as a child.

It’s no secret that how we behave stems from interactions with family, friends etc. What if these people were unaware of the traumas experienced by ancestors and classed their traits and mannerisms as cultural? What if they never learnt to question it? These behaviours would pass on and only worsen with each generation it encounters.

As a child growing up, I didn’t know the reasons for my parent’s practices; I only saw the outcome and wasn’t too happy about it. It was frustrating because I had so many questions but didn’t know who to ask, so I kept silent. Now that I’m working on healing from my childhood trauma, I now understand the reasons for their behaviour; it was based on survival. I am now more willing to forgive their actions and work on ending these patterns.

So here’s the video!

Lemme know your thoughts, I think it’s important that we start talking about generational curses and the effects so that we can heal from it.

Pax, Felicitatem et Viribus,
Nomadic Mind Wanderer

The SAD Months

I have been MIA for a week, and I couldn’t be bothered. For those who know me; I am positive, productive, passionate and organised. I feel lethargic and want to sleep all the time. I usually feel this way around winter; when there is less daylight, and it’s cold. I thought I was going crazy, but other people suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD).

I didn’t think this was a thing for I always had warm temperatures in Grenada (over 23 degrees). When I first moved to NY, it was warm, and it was sunny, so things were good. Then it got to November; the temperature dropped considerably and daylight saving time reduced my contact time with the sun. Being at school during most of the day prevented me from getting sun, so I noticed I became more fatigued even though I did everything right.

I thought it was linked to my homesickness, so I ignored it. After winter passed and daylight saving time ended, and I became more energetic and happy. The second winter came, and the same thing happened; I thought this couldn’t be a coincidence. I did my research, spoke to my doctor, and it turns out it’s a thing. I never thought the sunlight could be so important to humans. Melanated people need the sun for vitamin D production as vitamin D aids in the production of melatonin which keeps people happy, among other things.

Now that I’m facing winter again: no sun means I’m at the lowest point in my productivity, so I’m faced with lack of energy. I try multivitamins, exercise, etc., but all I want to do is sleep and eat. Please forgive me if my blogs aren’t consistent. I’m trying my best to keep going. If you have tried anything that works, please pass along!

Pax, Felicitatem et Viribus,
Nomadic Mind Wanderer

Generation Curses 101

During my introspection, the term ‘generational curse’ appeared a lot in my feed. It seemed like an entirely new concept as I couldn’t recall anyone speaking about it growing up. I did my research, but it was quite hard to find a proper definition. Based on what I read, I came up with this explanation.

Generational curses are misfortunes experienced based on negative traits inherited.

I heard the concept growing up. It was used to explain “why a person had a mental defect”, “experienced multiple miscarriages”, “involved in voodoo”, “poverty” or “experienced a karmic event”, to name a few.

I never thought much about it because it didn’t pertain to me. As I got older, I realise I was a victim on a smaller scale. I noticed that I deliberately sabotaged myself because I felt I wasn’t worthy to receive blessings. I often related these events to “not being my time” and continued coasting through life. I didn’t know better because I wasn’t taught better. Finding the root causes to heal was difficult, but I was able to categorise it into nature and nurture based.

Nature-Based:
I found out that descendants of slaves have modifications in how genes are expressed or suppressed in the body. Any trauma experienced by slaves tweaked how genes are regulated. This change can affect an individual on a physical, mental and spiritual level. Since descendants inherit DNA from their ancestors, all descendants acquire the change. This process is called Epigenetics. If you are not a descendant of slaves, the same theory can be applied if you had a traumatic event in your family’s history.

Nurture-Based:
It can also be developed by learning during interactions and observations. For example, if you are taught that your skin tone, body or hair type doesn’t fit a “recommended standard” you will forever try to change yourself. If negative thoughts surround you, you will go through life with a defeated mindset and never allow your light to shine at its brightest.

I’ve spoken to many people who’ve had these experiences. Therefore, I felt the need to write about this topic. The first step in growing is acknowledging that this problem exists.

Pax et Felicitatem,
Nomadic Mind Wanderer