For the Men

Photo by Min An

Why is it okay for women to show their feelings but men are considered weak? I have had men told me that they grew up hearing that crying was a sign of weakness.

My question after hearing this:

  • What are boys going to do when they have no outlet?
  • How are boys supposed to cope when they are shamed for feeling?
  • If you tell a boy no crying, what other option can you give them?

There are so many side effects that can result from denying someone that necessity, as my grandmother used to say “pressure does burst pipe.” Now men are in the space where they believe that the only way they can provide love is through financial means because that’s what they saw growing up. I know men, especially the older generation, who had multiple partners and that was alright with the wife because he contributed. Going from that ideology to incorporating emotions is quite mentally draining; some men would self-sabotage than deal with their feelings. This shouldn’t be an option for anyone; we need to break the cycle and embrace our men who want to vulnerable. This will save their lives.

I spoke to my friend a couple of weeks ago, and she said that three men committed suicide within seven days. I was stunned because the numbers keep growing and the population is just over 100,000 people. My country is not very open about these issues; we are just told to keep going, and that has been the mantra passed on from generation to generation. It’s recently become clear to me that just because you are taught something doesn’t make it acceptable. It’s time to throw away the theory that being vulnerable is not manly.

Every human has emotions, and such should embrace them. Every human has feminine and masculine attributes which should be tapped into for balance. We, as a society, should allow men the freedom to speak about their feelings without ridicule. Our future generations’ success depends on it. Trauma is passed down through the DNA, and we will continue to damage the psyche of the future if nothing is done about it.

To the who are already embracing your feelings, kudos to you! To the others, try to get past the stigma and improve yourself. Write about it, speak to someone you trust, find a quiet place and just cry. There is no one way to deal with pain. Be strong enough to face that part of yourself so you can grow; it’s a new season.

Pax et Felicitatem,
Nomadic Free Spirit

The Unseen Intruder

At some point in our lives, we have all felt sad. Sadness is an essential part of our lives because it reminds us of the need to be humble and offers a reference point for happy aspects of our lives. With sadness being an essential part of our lives, when does it become a problem? To me, it becomes a problem when the sadness lingers to the point where you lose interest in daily activities and leaving your bed becomes a physical battle.

I experienced this feeling growing up, but I never felt comfortable talking about it. I didn’t know how to start or who to speak to about the issue. I wanted to talk about it, but I feared being shunned or told to pray vigorously about it. I am a firm believer in prayers, but prayers without action wouldn’t benefit me, and I felt so lost. I also feared speaking out because expressing emotions wasn’t a common practice, so I didn’t want to be classed as an outsider.

I realised later that this trait, of not talking, was due to a coping mechanism brought about by the effects of slavery and colonialism. Before, I just thought it was reasonable to hold on to my feelings and let is damage me. I figured it was best to suppress it. That didn’t work because now as I get older, I saw my character developing from coping mechanisms based on my experiences. I thought about too many “what ifs” and hoped my life had gravitated differently. I’m now working on ensuring that my feelings are dealt with properly to prevent subsequent effects.

When talking to others about my experiences, I realised that others shared similar situations but are also afraid to speak about it. I’m so baffled that an issue so prevalent is not openly discussed. I believe it is crucial to remove the stigma related to sadness and depression. With May designated as Mental Health Awareness month, individuals are working to ensure this is normalised.

Beatus Manifestationes,
Nomadic Free Spirit

Stop. Breathe. Appreciate.

Why is it so easy to think about all the bad things that can happen as opposed to looking at the good things that could happen? Are we inherently hardwired to focus on the bad? With the current situation; we think about how we can’t go outside or can’t fulfil our basic needs, but we don’t dwell on the fact that we get time to rest and reset. Do you even take the time to focus on your mental health? What about your physical health? Have we forgotten self-care in the pursuit of financial wellbeing?

This time has pushed the pursuit of money on the backburner and proved itself to be another social construct. Take the time to interact with family members (without the use of technology) or learn a hobby or just rejuvenate. Let us try to retain some form of our humanity; we have been participating in this rat race for so long that we forget to come up for air. Let’s show the other species that we have emotions that are not associated with hatred and destruction. Let us focus on caring for others and thinking positively. I believe that we should work on shifting our energies to overcome this experience.

Beatus Manifestationes,
Nomadic Free Spirit

The Need to be Without (The sake of Your Sanity)

Unplugging and taking quiet time is the best gift you can give yourself. Refusing to succumb to the pull of the internet removes the cloud that confuses ones’ purpose. Just imagine in a typical day; you wake up with a list of goals you want to accomplish, but somehow the first thing you do is look at the updates on your phone and at this point, your focus shifts from taking care of your goals to fixating on trends. Then as you go throughout your day, during your commute and work, you sneak in moments where you “need” to answer a message or look at a post.

This occurrence becomes embedded in your daily lives to the point where feeding the addiction displaces accomplishing goals. Then, there comes the point where you have lost sight of who you are as a person. This displacement is real and dangerous; the addiction grows slowly and steadily while distracting its host into some alternate reality. The good news is that this addiction is reversible. The same way you convinced yourself to scroll through social media is the same way you can persuade yourself to close the application. Believe it or not, your world will not shatter if you don’t look at the trends multiple times a day.

Take some time during the day to turn off your phone and direct your attention to some other aspect of your life.

  • Go outside and rediscover nature; with the rapid consumption of technology, humans have strayed away from the divine cycle of the universe. The use of content has become more critical than self-care. Go outside and learn to re-appreciate the beauty and calming effects of nature.
  • Take the time to reflect on your past and present so that you can create targets for your future.
  • Try consuming as little artificial light as possible; the presence of artificial life affects the hormonal balance in the body.
  • Try Adopting early sleep and wake times; resting between the recommended hours does help holistically and waking up early allows you to accomplish some personal goals before you have to go into work.

Beatus Manifestationes,
Nomadic Free Spirit

How Being At Home Changed My View

This time forced me to change my perspective on my life as well as rest. I’ve been pushing myself so much to achieve my goals, I neglected self care. Now as I have the downtime, I will focus on myself so that I can achieve more because I can’t give to others when my cup is empty!

Beatus Manifestationes,
Nomadic Free Spirit

Opening Up

This is the season for isolation, reflection and healing; The first step is identifying the problem then making the time to work on reducing the effects. Hope you enjoy!

Beatus Manifestationes,
Nomadic Free Spirit

Spring Cleaning

There are so many times I wanted to be deeply honest and share everything, but I held back because I knew a few people who followed the blog. It’s weird, but I feel more comfortable revealing myself to strangers than the people I know. It’s a bizarre concept, but I realised it stemmed from my childhood. I never trusted many people because I was disappointed regularly. Growing up with constant disappointments set my expectation low, and in turn, would eagerly believe anyone who appeared genuine even when that wasn’t the case. I found myself in a continuous cycle of trust, disappointment, repeat:

  • Why was it so easy to trust?
  • Did I long for someone to protect me?
  • Was I incredibly naive?
  • Did I just choose to see the good in people?

I also realised I shy away from opening up because I fear getting ridiculed to the point where my spirits would be broken, and I would just stop writing altogether. Hard to believe that even at my age, I still get overwhelmed with insecurities; one thing that is different now is that I try to focus on the people that would commend me for speaking out. I think it’s time to make the positive encounters paramount because I’m already bombarded with so many pollutants.

Being at home has forced me to be more honest with myself, so I will continue to give me.

Beatus Manifestationes,
Nomadic Free Spirit🦋 🦉

Time for Change (In practice)

Today I did something I wanted to do for months now, which was to incorporate a vlogfessions portion to blogfessions. The idea came, and I dismissed it because I was a bit nervous about showing too much of myself. But, with all that is happening, it was time to do something I have always wanted to do. At this point, I have nothing to lose but the fear that is holding me back.
So take it from me; take a chance on yourself to become a better version than before. Your future self is waiting! Hope you enjoy the first of many videos!

Beatus Manifestationes,
Nomadic Free Spirit

Time for Change

Is life making you busy or you are using LIFE as an excuse not to do the things you need to do?

I made an effort to start this blog, and I was consistent with semi-regular postings. When things became a bit more demanding but still manageable, I rode that busy train to the point where I didn’t post anything for two weeks. I did, however, find time to scroll through Instagram in the name of clearing my head. I was allowing this sluggish nature to get the best of me; it’s fun to stay in bed sleeping and scrolling through social media, but I needed to do right by myself and develop.

It may be hard to believe, but you are meant for something more than mediocrity. Scrolling through social media, watching others impact change is more than what you were put on the earth to do. If you think you have no idea what you are meant to do in this life, you are wrong. You know it, it’s been hovering around you since the beginning. It’s time to focus your energy on letting this become apparent to you. Now is the perfect time to do it because you are at home and streaming tv is becoming a bit tired. If you are like me and avoided connecting with yourself because it was too hard, take a chance on yourself.

Start small; find out things about yourself by challenging your thinking. One thing I started doing was writing challenges. The complexity of these challenges pulled me out of my comfort zone and made me ok with being vulnerable.

During this time of isolation, learn more about yourself to resume the growth process. You are fantastic and complex; it’s time to unlock that door to find out your potential.

Beatus Manifestationes,
Nomadic Free Spirit🦋🦉

My Dearest Daniella (letters to my younger self)

“My Dearest Daniella,

With your face to the sun and dreams bigger than your smile. Five years feels like yesterday and many moons ago at the same time. That independent, smart and brave eighteen year old girl determined to change her generation’s pattern and discover herself. As I reflect and tears roll down my face, I want you to know I am proud of the woman you have become; you earned it. There was no way of knowing where the trajectory of your life would take you but ultimately it has brought you here to this divine moment. Don’t stop writing your story. Pen the details of the power of letting go, the grit of persevering and the freedom of forgiveness. Pen the lessons of love, failure and growth. Pen your journey of learning, being and becoming Daniella- Enough.

With love, your self. ❤”

I met Daniella at a conference I wasn’t even met to go on. We connect instantly and even got to go snorkeling together. We lost touch, but reconnected when I started my blog while inspiring her to recommit herself to her blog. It’s a pleasure knowing her, as she is brave, determined and happy!

Check out her blog at https://daniellaenough.wordpress.com/ and IG at daniella_enough

Beatus Manifestationes,
Nomadic Free Spirit

Happy March!

It’s been two months since the beginning of the year and it’s time to check in:

  1. How have you been?
  2. Is your (mental, physical, spiritual, emotional) health ok?
  3. Have you been saying your positive affirmations?
  4. Have you been remaining positive?
  5. Have you been accomplishing the goals you have set for yourself?
  6. Have you been consistent with your objectives?
  7. Have you been blessing the world with your magic?
  8. Have you been loving yourself wholeheartedly?
  9. Have you been tuning out the negativity?

Kudos to you if you have. I’m happy that you know your worth and you’re willing to maintain that level of consistency. I know there are days when curling up in a ball is the easiest thing, but you choose to go out there to shine bright. Remember you inspire people, so go out there and be that boss.

If you haven’t, there is still time to be your best self. You don’t have to wait until the end of the year, you can do it at any time with the right mindset. If you don’t feel like you are being pushed in that direction, it’s time to change your environment. Everyone is tasked to find their purpose in life; the longer you wait by engaging in distractions the further you are from your happiness. So do better and be better for your future self, success is waiting to be intimately acquainted with you.
Sending positivity your way!

Pax et Felicitatem,
Nomadic Free Spirit

Words Hurt as Well as Sticks and Stones (Part II)

So many times we say things about ourselves that are so demeaning, and we wonder why things are so unfavourable for us. We put negative energy in the world to multiply and follow us. Even if it’s a joke; the words are still released in the same way. It’s one of the reasons you are to blame for your misfortunes. Be kind to yourself; praise yourself for all the things you have accomplished. You are terrific, and it is time you realise the impact your presence has on the universe.

The negative energy also applies when you say things about others as well. These words may be rooted in a place of jealousy, self-disappointment, anger, conditioning, etc. Everyone goes through their insecurities, and it never helps when you say (hear) something horrible about someone else (yourself) even if it’s a joke. I was talking to someone, and they said that they get bullied on their looks, and it was meant to be a joke. They said they were used to it and I had to remind them that it was not okay even if it was normalised.

Be kind to others; they are as valuable to the universe as you are, and their impact does shape the world as you know it. Words are so powerful that they can uplift or break a person down, which can change the course of their lives in the future. Words are misused so frequently cause we never take the time to understand its origins and potential impact. Challenge yourself to spread positivity with your power for you are powerful creatures.

Beatus Manifestationes,
Nomadic Mind Wanderer🦋🦉

🥳Celebrating Milestones🥳

If my blog were a baby, she would be at the point where she is more aware of her surroundings. She would try to talk, producing sounds unfamiliar to me, and mimic everything I do. We would both have that love and trust surrounded by unlimited happiness.

Six months ago, I decided to be brave enough to publish my first post publically and chose to keep the consistency. It was such a nerve-wracking experience as I was scared of the rejections I would face when I made myself vulnerable by sharing my inner thoughts to people other than my close friends.

I’m glad I took that jump for I no longer wanted to live in regret. I get such joy from writing, and the words flow so smoothly. I love the challenge I get from pushing myself to be more creative. I learn so much from others who share their stories with me after reading my blogs.

I thank all those who read my blogs and share your feedback and encouragement. It is a rewarding experience as I grow and expand. I urge you to share with others who you think would appreciate the content. I want to inspire as many people possible to reach their potential and stay on the path to be their best self!!

Beatus Manifestationes,
Nomadic Mind Wanderer🦋🦉

My Poetry Challenge

I thought it! I said it out loud! I did it!

As part of my theme this year, I wanted to push myself towards writing more poetry. I convinced my friend that we should do a writing challenge; we would alternate picking themes for the month, write at least three poems and send them as voice notes or messages to each other. My friend agreed, and we went on our 2020 journey. The theme for January was “Having the Strength to Let Go,” decided by yours truly!

At the end of January; we exchanged and listened/read. I was in awe by our creativity and amazingness. I would say I’m a good poet, but my friend is an amazingly creative being. Every time I read her poems, I’m intrigued by her use of words to convey her emotion! She is truly my poetry twin aside from being one of my closest friends! We continue to inspire and motive each other when it comes to writing, and without her motivation, I wouldn’t be able to share this poem:

For the Love of Happiness

She wakes up, and I bleed
I don’t understand why she allows me to do this
She forces herself to wake up to succumb to the mental enslavement, wake up to repeat the same tasks as yesterday in the name of a job
Brain says she needs this entrapment for survival, but I disagree
For all the times we have argued, this has been the worst; a body divided, a dream destroyed
I feel weaker each day; Heart cracks and the butterflies which once occupied the stomach turned into shards wounding her from the inside.
I was on the attack to gain as many supports to defeat Brain
He thought it was a good thing for one reason; it was a job, and that job was the reason we were able to live
It was a valid point, but it was just one.
That point reiterated as if it was the only job for her
I sensed that this reason was laced with fear, for whenever I spoke about the topic, I felt attacked.
I persisted. I fought. I won.
I fought logic with logic. I offered solutions, and it was agreed upon.
I got to be happy again, Brain felt a new form of security, and she was able to move on from a place she outgrew months ago.

Dara Pierre

The Theme for February is “The Comeback,” if you want to join us!

Beatus Manifestationes,
Nomadic Mind Wanderer

You Are What You Call Yourself

I have this friend that continually calls me a girl even though I remind them that I don’t identify with that word. They didn’t seem to understand the idea behind it, but I felt the need to explain my stance to prevent any further confusion. So the story goes like this:

“I made a conscious effort not to refer to myself as a girl anymore under any circumstances. Most people thought it was weird, but I connected the word girl with childish and finite things, and I didn’t want to associate myself with that any longer. I associated woman with growth, success, etc. and thus wanted to attract all these things, plus more, into my life.

When I made the transition from girl to woman, I had this metaphysical change. I was more willing to embrace changes as well as accomplish the goals I set out for myself. My poise changed and I became more graceful. You may not think that this was the only reason, but it was indeed the first flap in the butterfly effect. I am glad I made this decision!”

In life, you need to do what is best for you, and this was a great win for me.

Beatus Manifestationes,
Nomadic Mind Wanderer

My Bare Minimum Checklist

As part of “The Year of Mass Holistic Expansion” I set out some goals that I need to complete as part of the bare minimum to accomplishing this year. It started as a challenge I gave to my friends, new year resolution of sorts, but I decided to turn them into affirmations so that I can attract the necessary steps to get to the next level.

  • I am going to become more spiritual;
  • I am going to become more consistent with the tasks I set for myself;
  • I am going to continue with my blog and expand this brand I created;
  • I am going to continue to develop partnerships geared in expanding sponsorship programs;
  • I am going to creating avenues for multiples sources of income;
  • I am going to read more;
  • I am going to never allow my fears and doubts to get the best of me;
  • I am finally going kill the evil spirit of procrastination.

Pax et Felicitatem,
Nomadic Mind Wanderer
😘

End of Year Address (Part 2)

…In Grenada, I reconnected with my father, got the chance to do some significant reflections; which made me learn a lot more about myself, and I finally decided what I wanted to do career wise. After returning from Grenada, I started looking at masters or PhD programmes. I found this school and I knew that it was the school for me (its logo was an owl, I’ll expand in a later post), and coincidently I found a job in analytical chemistry that was 10mins away from where I lived. I applied to both, and I got accepted. Starting school was a bit more complicated as it was impossible to self-fund, but at the 11.9999th hour, things worked out, and I was able to start. During my panic mode for my masters, I started this blog!

I was scared to leave my job but was excited to start this new journey; when I started, it felt like the right decision, and I would be challenged. School felt the same way as well; however, I had a mass panic attack because I had a moment of doubt in myself. Lucky, I spoke to persons, and I felt better about the situation. This made me vow to be consistent with my assignments and review weekly; I stuck to my promise and did great in the first term(kudos to me)! Being at the school also allowed me the opportunity to partake in a workshop geared to helping persons with business ideas (for free).

During this year:

  • I’ve met some fantastic people who called me out for enabling some shit;
  • I realised that I should be around people/things that brought me joy. As a result, some interactions ended as quickly as it started;
  • I realised that Christmas isn’t my thing so for upcoming years I would prefer to volunteer somewhere than getting fat during a meal;
  • I will make more time for the people that are important to me;
  • I’m way too talented to settle for any mediocrity in any aspect of my life.

The year brought about a shift from desiring the things I wanted most in my life to receiving them and made me proud to be my quirky self. I was brave enough to accomplish a lot and committed enough to keep working to maintain that standard. I am ready for what 2020 has to offer, and I am genuinely prepared to accept the greatness I am meant to accomplish.

PxF,
NMW

End of Year Address (Part 1)

Every year I am fortunate enough to celebrate two new years; the one everyone celebrates based on the Gregorian calendar, and the other one is, of course, my birthday. The second one is much more special to me because it’s a celebration of my birth and a rededication of my commitment to be my most authentic self. This year, 19-28, was a fantastic year aside from the fact I will never acclimatise to winter for I will forever be a summer baby.

The year started in Barcelona; it was a refreshing experience seeing it for the second time around. It was still winter there was the sun shone in all its glory. I returned to the UK, and all my problems met me at the airport. That year I knew I wanted to leave my job, but I couldn’t just quit, and the job search was aimless because I didn’t know what my next step was going to be. At the moment, work was a bit bearable due to my work husband, but as he was leaving soon, the impending doom was quickly approaching. After he left, the reality of how much I disliked where I work hit me and I confessed to my manager that I wasn’t challenged.

Moving into the first quarter of the year, I was still stuck at my job, but I had a trip to Ibiza planned that made me excited. However, hearing that my dad was sick made me every concerned and taking a trip home was at the back of my mind. A week before I was supposed to go to Ibiza, I made the decision that I would go to Grenada instead. However, that didn’t happen, and I went both, and I never regretted the decision. Ibiza made me realised that I needed to reconnect with my spontaneous and adventurous side. I got to have the time of my life and met such amazing people plus I got sun which made me very happy…

Pax et Felicitatem,
Nomadic Mind Wanderer

Consistency to a Fault

Last year it finally stuck that consistency brought forth a successful outcome. I accomplished so much and started some of my longstanding goals. It is such a wonderful feeling knowing that I am not broken, just lazy. One day during my meditations, I realised that I have always been consistent; however, it was towards my bad habits.

I was consistent in NOT finishing my goals, holding onto negative emotions (hate, jealousy, anger, resentment, etc.), being lazy, self-doubt, and, the biggest of all, procrastination. I was so loyal to these negative aspects that I never linked it to the fact that it caused my stagnation. It was indeed my experience of Stockholm’s syndrome.

As I see it now, it was easy to be consistent with those traits because it felt safe, it was healthy for me, and I didn’t think I was strong enough to change. Now that I’ve demolished so many barriers since the year of 25, I’ve faced the negative aspects of myself and rewired my brain to understand the importance of being consistent and loyal to the right things.

It was a problematic process changing my mindset as there are so many distractions to revert me. Now that having a persistent mindset is more ingrained within me, it’s harder to go back to square one. I haven’t gotten to where I want to be as yet because it takes lots of self-dedication. However, every day I aim to increase my standards and get to that point. The hardest part was accepting responsibility for my results. Now that I overcame this hump, the journey became more natural for me.

No matter what stage you are in your life, you can get it right if you change your mindset and be consistent with the traits that will allow you to grow holistically.

Pax et Felicitatem,
Nomadic Mind Wanderer

A FaceBook Reminder

I was scrolling through facebook and I was reminded about something I posted a year ago. It was a poetry project I had completed; I research the meaning of my names and wrote a descriptive paragraph about myself. Looking back at it now, I have to say that I have maintained the level of growth I wanted for myself. I have maintained:

  • consistency
  • self love/esteem/belief/confidence
  • peace/sanity/joy/motivation
  • my diet (what I consume in all aspects of my life)
  • my energy and the steps needed to protect it

My Name: Unfolded

The lioness knew that the light within her would guide her through the midst of uncertainty. Her wisdom would assist those who had lost their strength along the way. She fought hard to maintain the honour and victory within herself, never ceasing to forget her rock.

Pax et Felicitatem,
Nomadic Mind Wanderer

F is for Forward

I was on my way to a workshop about ‘having an entrepreneurial mindset.’ When checking in, I found this button with the letter F. It was catchy and colourful, and I was instantly drawn to it. Without looking at the associated company, the first word I linked F to was FORWARD. FORWARD came to mind because it reminds me of my journey:

  • How I kept pushing myself even though there were lots of barriers to the point where it became frustrating and confusing.
  • How I kept creating a momentum even though I thought it was insignificant.
  • How I never stopped entirely but kept cruising to my current point in life.

Also, when I think of Forward, Maurice Bishop comes to mind with the quote “forward ever, backward never.” He used this quote to inspire the country to obtain growth on various levels. This quote is so powerful that it shouldn’t only apply to nations, but people, as they are the ones that form a country.

Forward is being able to understand me enough to want to make changes/movements. Understanding myself comes from interacting with all situations that appear in my life — learning from every experience I encounter because I will adapt to my environment and consistently be creative.

Forward is always going irrespective to the progress I see from other people. Everyone is different, and as such, every movement is unique. So I never become discouraged when I see others going at ridiculous speeds. At times, It’s always good to take the scenic routes; I get to take in life and pick up some valuable lessons along the way.

F means forward to me, what does it mean to you?

Not sure who Maurice Bishop is??
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maurice_Bishop

Pax et Felicitatem,
Nomadic Mind Wanderer

Nomadic’s Dictionary

I am…
Ambitious, Adventurous
Beautiful, Benevolent
Creative, Curious, Confident, Complex
Daring, dapper
Empathetic, Enchanting
Formidable, fulfilled
Grounded
Happy
Interesting, Intelligent
Joyous
Knowledgeable, Keen
Lucky, Lionhearted
Mindful, Majestic
Nomadic
Open, Opinionated
Positive, Powerful, Passionate
Quirky
Resourceful, Rich
Successful, Sweet,
Thoughtful
Unparalleled
Victorious, Virtuous
Witty, Wise,
Xenial, X-linked
Youthful
Zappy, Zealous

Pax et Felicitatem,
Nomadic Mind Wanderer

Pre and Post: Year 25

I didn’t feel like I lived until I turned 25. I was so caught up in my insecurities and listened to other people that I never did want I wanted. I remember distinctively; I wanted to do a queen show. I got the form and filled it out but didn’t submit it because I persuaded not to do it. I also allowed fear to be a significant part of my life. There were so many times I wanted to do something, but I was scared. Then after the event, I would be filled with much regret that I played alternative scenarios my mind.

Then at 25, when the frontal cortex was matured, the lights came on. I was walking one day, and I asked myself “what are you doing?” I realised then I shouldn’t be bothered by what people thought and I should focus on what I wanted. This epiphany was concerning other heartbreaks as well. I guess being hard-headed is beneficial after all. I had to be and do me for my sanity. Now, I’m seasoned in this positivity and life is much better. I’m happier and attracting ambitiously conscious people in my life.

Pre 25 was excellent, but post 25 is much more liberating because I am not phased by the negativity, insecurity or immaturity of others. The colour on the rose-tinted glasses has been lifted, and I can see things for what they are. I learnt it’s all about protecting your energy and keeping people around that will help you grow. It’s hard to say goodbye; but seasons change, creatures evolve and stagnant water produces harm. If you aren’t there yet, start heading in that direction because your future self is waiting to be that beacon of light that shines constantly.

Pax et Felicitatem,
Nomadic Mind Wanderer

The Art of Calling Out!

Asking for a friend:
How far do you go when calling someone out? What do you say? How would you deliver the call-out? Who would you call-out?

I vividly remember my first call-out, it was purely reflex, and I was surprised I did it. When I was 12, I decided to try out for the school’s netball team (got cut after a week). One day, we were queuing up, and one of the older girls said something negative with regards to a male teacher. I turned around and said, ‘why don’t you mind your own business.’ and she said, ‘catch you falling self*.’

I said nothing after that, but I was thinking about whether if it was my place to say something. From that moment, I stayed away from saying anything unless there was some verbal confirmation to do otherwise. I usually have full authority to go out on my friends, but I know it’s reciprocated. Sometimes I don’t say anything cause we all stubborn together and my words would be wasted. However, that goes out the window when it’s time to say I told you so.

I love it when people call me out: professional or otherwise. I appreciate knowing that people care enough to correct me when I’ve done something I shouldn’t be doing. I’m a firm believer that “ignorance is NOT bliss, it dangerous,” so I’m ready to learn. However, I don’t like it when someone feels the need to belittle me in their call-out.

In a professional setting; it would include shouting, using inappropriate work language, throwing me under the bus. In an intimate environment: shouting!! However, if we are close, I would allow those things if I did something stupid.

I’m all about growing from my mistakes, so I don’t mind anyone correcting me (as long as they’re respectful). I have my reservations when it comes to calling people out because they may not be as open-minded and might curse me out!

*mind your funky business

Pax et Felicitatem,
Nomadic Mind Wanderer

I think It’s Time

I love you so I think you need to hear this:

I’m tired of giving so much of myself with little to no appreciation.

I’m tired of having to constantly listen without you acknowledging

the impact of your negativity.

There comes a time in your life when you need to realise that your

choices not only affects you, but those directly in your circle.

Your naivety is restricting access to your common sense.

I pray that you will let go of the negative patterns you learnt as a child.

You accept that the things you encounter are a direct result of the energy

you bring.

I try to be there for you without thought, but you are draining me.

I can feel your discord from the time I hold my phone.

I know that you are lonely but you can never be alone if you make peace

with yourself.

It’s not that hard if you make the effort, but you need at try.

 It’s not me, it’s you.

Until you realise it’s you,

you will always consider yourself to be Atlas.

Pax et Felicitatem,
Nomadic Mind Wanderer

What I learnt When Dating Myself…

One of the very first dates I had

I took the time to get to know the “me” that has been tucked away so long behind all the fear, regrets and negativity. I wanna showcase the beauty of myself, when I finally decide to pay attention.

My list will continuously grow as the dating process is still happening. As of now, I can say that everyday I fall more in love with myself.

If you wanna share your list, message me and I’ll post it! It will be exciting to see your growth!

  • If my heart is not with it, the flow of creativity will die.
  • I need to give myself time to heal before I jump into something big.
  • My parents raised me the best way they knew how to at the time.
  • It was never my fault when people mistreated me because of their insecurities.
  • Not everyone will like me.
  • The decision I made felt right to me at the time.
  • My stubborn ass should listen to the signs.