It’s time to start focusing on your definition of success rather than “the definition” of success. No two person’s journey is the same, therefore comparing yourself to others won’t help you grow as a person. The only comparison that is allowed is the one with your prior and present versions.
Celebrate all the mini wins along the way to that big goal. It is possible to be your best self and keep the consistency that comes with levelling up. There may be times where you don’t receive a favourable outcome, i.e. “failing”, but learning from the situation facilitates growth. Please, don’t be hard on yourself. You are successful; it you don’t believe it, ask your friends to remind you.
Hope you have a great week and remember to let go of the things that no longer serve your purpose.
This time forced me to change my perspective on my life as well as rest. I’ve been pushing myself so much to achieve my goals, I neglected self care. Now as I have the downtime, I will focus on myself so that I can achieve more because I can’t give to others when my cup is empty!
I got called weird all the time for saying that I talk to myself. Talking to myself is one of the things that calms me; the inner zen part reaches out to reassure me that things are going alright. When I repeat those words enough, I feel good enough to continue my day.
” I BELIEVE IN YOU” is one of my most common ones. Words so simple can make you feel so good; it’s truly a proverbial comforter. My trick is saying it so many times that I start believing and my perception changes.
Focusing on the past is a waste of time, unless you have a time travel machine to fix the situation. Look at what’s happening now and sort things out. There will be light at the end of the tunnel if you are willing to be patient enough to keep existing in faith to see it.
Why is it so easy to focus on the bad things that happened or can happen as opposed to looking at the one good thing that resulted? Are we inherently hardwired to focus on the bad? With the current situation, we think about how we can’t pay our bills or go outside, but we don’t dwell on the fact that we are alive and we got this opportunity to rest, recuperate and realign ourselves with our purpose.
WHAT ABOUT YOUR:
We are guilty of forgetting these things because we have become slaves of the world. Everything that is happening is a reminder that we focused on the wrong things, and that our reality is apart of the social construct designed to keep us oppressed. Take this time to stay home and interact with your family without the aid of technology. Let us try to retain some form of our humanity. Let’s show the other species that we have different emotions aside from hate. Let us focus on caring for others and continue to maintain the positivity. Let us shift the energy to get us through this time.
I am blessed to have people in my circle that truly care about my wellbeing. They keep in touch often and offer a helping hand or listening ear when I have rough patches. My life is so much more meaningful with these positive influences in my life.
I hope you take the time today to reflect on the people who care about you no matter what. Life is more worthy when you have people who bring joy in your life.
There are so many times I wanted to be deeply honest and share everything, but I held back because I knew a few people who followed the blog. It’s weird, but I feel more comfortable revealing myself to strangers than the people I know. It’s a bizarre concept, but I realised it stemmed from my childhood. I never trusted many people because I was disappointed regularly. Growing up with constant disappointments set my expectation low, and in turn, would eagerly believe anyone who appeared genuine even when that wasn’t the case. I found myself in a continuous cycle of trust, disappointment, repeat:
Why was it so easy to trust?
Did I long for someone to protect me?
Was I incredibly naive?
Did I just choose to see the good in people?
I also realised I shy away from opening up because I fear getting ridiculed to the point where my spirits would be broken, and I would just stop writing altogether. Hard to believe that even at my age, I still get overwhelmed with insecurities; one thing that is different now is that I try to focus on the people that would commend me for speaking out. I think it’s time to make the positive encounters paramount because I’m already bombarded with so many pollutants.
Being at home has forced me to be more honest with myself, so I will continue to give me.
No matter how crazy you think life is, you are absolutely making it work. You get up every day to power through with a brave face. You seem to be able to figure out what needs to be done even though it seems daunting. With all the challenges, you seem to be working through it.
You are organising your life through all of that and you should be proud of that accomplishment. It is time to stop comparing yourself with others and work on outdoing your past self. We need more beings dedicated to the cause of self love and finding one’s purpose. You got this and don’t you forget that.
Today I did something I wanted to do for months now, which was to incorporate a vlogfessions portion to blogfessions. The idea came, and I dismissed it because I was a bit nervous about showing too much of myself. But, with all that is happening, it was time to do something I have always wanted to do. At this point, I have nothing to lose but the fear that is holding me back. So take it from me; take a chance on yourself to become a better version than before. Your future self is waiting! Hope you enjoy the first of many videos!
It’s time to ignore the voice in your head that has been telling you not to do it. This is usually coming from a place of fear. What do you really have to lose IF you try something new? Take a chance and just do it; the hard part will be over.
Is life making you busy or you are using LIFE as an excuse not to do the things you need to do?
I made an effort to start this blog, and I was consistent with semi-regular postings. When things became a bit more demanding but still manageable, I rode that busy train to the point where I didn’t post anything for two weeks. I did, however, find time to scroll through Instagram in the name of clearing my head. I was allowing this sluggish nature to get the best of me; it’s fun to stay in bed sleeping and scrolling through social media, but I needed to do right by myself and develop.
It may be hard to believe, but you are meant for something more than mediocrity. Scrolling through social media, watching others impact change is more than what you were put on the earth to do. If you think you have no idea what you are meant to do in this life, you are wrong. You know it, it’s been hovering around you since the beginning. It’s time to focus your energy on letting this become apparent to you. Now is the perfect time to do it because you are at home and streaming tv is becoming a bit tired. If you are like me and avoided connecting with yourself because it was too hard, take a chance on yourself.
Start small; find out things about yourself by challenging your thinking. One thing I started doing was writing challenges. The complexity of these challenges pulled me out of my comfort zone and made me ok with being vulnerable.
During this time of isolation, learn more about yourself to resume the growth process. You are fantastic and complex; it’s time to unlock that door to find out your potential.
You are your greatest gift and worst nightmare. You are responsible for everything that happens in your life; your thoughts and actions shape your life. It’s worth believing in your ability so you can change the world. It’s time to be your best self, your highest self!
With your face to the sun and dreams bigger than your smile. Five years feels like yesterday and many moons ago at the same time. That independent, smart and brave eighteen year old girl determined to change her generation’s pattern and discover herself. As I reflect and tears roll down my face, I want you to know I am proud of the woman you have become; you earned it. There was no way of knowing where the trajectory of your life would take you but ultimately it has brought you here to this divine moment. Don’t stop writing your story. Pen the details of the power of letting go, the grit of persevering and the freedom of forgiveness. Pen the lessons of love, failure and growth. Pen your journey of learning, being and becoming Daniella- Enough.
With love, your self. ❤”
I met Daniella at a conference I wasn’t even met to go on. We connect instantly and even got to go snorkeling together. We lost touch, but reconnected when I started my blog while inspiring her to recommit herself to her blog. It’s a pleasure knowing her, as she is brave, determined and happy!
With all the uncertainty happening in the world, panic seems to be the only logical thing to do. But in panicking, you cloud your mind with fear and it becomes harder to receive the message. With all the crazy, you need to constantly be grateful because in focusing on the positives, calm rushes within you.
As you go throughout your day don’t forget to repeat the words and practice it. Be safe and remember the need to be positive in your lives.
As part of my morning routine, I wake up, pray and meditate. As that became an integral part of my day I realised I became more grounded and had a clear sense of what I wanted to do. Ideas and thoughts came more freely and I had escape creativity constipation.
As I went about my day last week, this thought came into my head of what I should do next. I instantly thought it was a great idea because it allowed me to bring more positivity to this space.
With no further ado, I bring to you Affirmation Mondays. I will post an affirmation to help you start your week with good vibrations. These will be picked after deep pray and meditation. Do hope you enjoy!
It’s been two months since the beginning of the year and it’s time to check in:
How have you been?
Is your (mental, physical, spiritual, emotional) health ok?
Have you been saying your positive affirmations?
Have you been remaining positive?
Have you been accomplishing the goals you have set for yourself?
Have you been consistent with your objectives?
Have you been blessing the world with your magic?
Have you been loving yourself wholeheartedly?
Have you been tuning out the negativity?
Kudos to you if you have. I’m happy that you know your worth and you’re willing to maintain that level of consistency. I know there are days when curling up in a ball is the easiest thing, but you choose to go out there to shine bright. Remember you inspire people, so go out there and be that boss.
If you haven’t, there is still time to be your best self. You don’t have to wait until the end of the year, you can do it at any time with the right mindset. If you don’t feel like you are being pushed in that direction, it’s time to change your environment. Everyone is tasked to find their purpose in life; the longer you wait by engaging in distractions the further you are from your happiness. So do better and be better for your future self, success is waiting to be intimately acquainted with you. Sending positivity your way!
This is the last day of this fabulous month, it was indeed a pleasure emphasising and reiterating the glorious magic of melanated people. Truly amazing people, but severely neglected. We will rise above it cause we are Phoenixes.
You should send this to all the people in your life that have brought you great peace and happiness. They deserve to hear it when it is possible.
I meant to write this intro for the longest time; However, I didn’t feel it was the right time until now. As you may have seen on my blog, there is a section about this topic. I’m going to dive into different times where I should make peace with my past self. I feel it is time to forgive myself for setting the bar so high then guilting myself when I didn’t accomplish those tasks.
I learnt it is ok to go at my pace and that I determine when the speed/intensity increases. Comparing myself with others only made my self-esteem plummet. Getting older and experiencing so many things made it so important to be grateful for my existence on this physical plane. It is imperative to focus on embracing the positives even though it is minuscule in my eyes (so, therefore, it is so much more).
Waking up and returning home daily should be cherished because the uncertainty of death hits home so many times. I learnt to give myself time to be happy, to be sad, and being a workaholic, time to rest. I pay attention to all the signs that are presented by the universe. I am a creator in my own right so I intend to create things that will aid in the world’s blossoming. I now trust in myself to trust in the decisions I make. Overall, I need to know myself so I can take on any challenge I encounter.
YOU ARE MAGIC. YOU BELONG. YOU ARE WORTHY. Let those words be engrained in your mind until you believe it wholeheartedly! Don’t let the words of people who don’t know you stop you from becoming who you are meant to be.
At the tender age of six, Ruby Bridges advanced the cause of civil rights in November 1960 when she became the first African American student to integrate an elementary school in the South.
Born on September 8, 1954, Bridges was the oldest of five children for Lucille and Abon Bridges, farmers in Tylertown, Mississippi. When Ruby was two years old, her parents moved their family to New Orleans, Louisiana in search of better work opportunities.
Ruby and her mother were escorted by four federal marshals to the school every day that year. She walked past crowds screaming vicious slurs at her. Undeterred, she later said she only became frightened when she saw a woman holding a black baby doll in a coffin. She spent her first day in the principal’s office due to the chaos created as angry white parents pulled their children from school. Many parents withdrew their children permanently. Ruby ate lunch alone and sometimes played with her teacher at recess, but she never missed a day of school that year.
So many times we say things about ourselves that are so demeaning, and we wonder why things are so unfavourable for us. We put negative energy in the world to multiply and follow us. Even if it’s a joke; the words are still released in the same way. It’s one of the reasons you are to blame for your misfortunes. Be kind to yourself; praise yourself for all the things you have accomplished. You are terrific, and it is time you realise the impact your presence has on the universe.
The negative energy also applies when you say things about others as well. These words may be rooted in a place of jealousy, self-disappointment, anger, conditioning, etc. Everyone goes through their insecurities, and it never helps when you say (hear) something horrible about someone else (yourself) even if it’s a joke. I was talking to someone, and they said that they get bullied on their looks, and it was meant to be a joke. They said they were used to it and I had to remind them that it was not okay even if it was normalised.
Be kind to others; they are as valuable to the universe as you are, and their impact does shape the world as you know it. Words are so powerful that they can uplift or break a person down, which can change the course of their lives in the future. Words are misused so frequently cause we never take the time to understand its origins and potential impact. Challenge yourself to spread positivity with your power for you are powerful creatures.