We as humans have the ability to go from having an idea in our minds to making it a reality. We literally have the power to make something exist. The more we start believing that this can happen, the sooner the blessings will start pouring down. So many times we have great ideas but we get trapped in fear and confusion. How can we move forward when we have these limitations holding us back? This tugging back and forth will only cause stagnation and that will not provide any form of growth. You have the ability to do anything you put your mind towards achieving, let go of that limiting belief and work towards your goals.
I committed myself to address the stuff that keeps holding me back from flourishing. It turns out once I started, there were so many things that I learnt about myself. I started thinking a lot more about my toxic and positive traits. I realise I’m a beautiful soul just confused by everything that happens around me. I feel so much that it becomes too much to process, and I shut down. I have to come to notice that the entire universe responds through stimuli, a feeling. Embracing this and implementing it has been one of the most significant steps in my life.
Why is it so easy to focus on the bad things that happened or can happen as opposed to looking at the one good thing that resulted? Are we inherently hardwired to focus on the bad? With the current situation, we think about how we can’t pay our bills or go outside, but we don’t dwell on the fact that we are alive and we got this opportunity to rest, recuperate and realign ourselves with our purpose.
WHAT ABOUT YOUR:
We are guilty of forgetting these things because we have become slaves of the world. Everything that is happening is a reminder that we focused on the wrong things, and that our reality is apart of the social construct designed to keep us oppressed. Take this time to stay home and interact with your family without the aid of technology. Let us try to retain some form of our humanity. Let’s show the other species that we have different emotions aside from hate. Let us focus on caring for others and continue to maintain the positivity. Let us shift the energy to get us through this time.
At the beginning of the year, I made a vow that I would take the time to “go off the grid” to reset and realign focus on the things that are important to me. I heard of this idea when I went to a workshop last year. “It sparked creativity,” she said, and it was able to propel her in the personal and professional aspects of her life. I felt I needed to do that because I haven’t been able to write a poem in ages, and I felt shattered. All I was doing was writing for the blog, and I wanted to go back to the point where I was a creative on all levels. I did try “trials and error” days where I disconnected for a few hours, and I felt the difference. So this time I would do an entire day.
I turned off my computer, my phone and all other electronic devices (aside from my fridge). This was hard as I live in a(n) flat (apartment) that is electric. After I switched off everything, I could already feel the difference. My body was free from the electromagnetic wave, and I could begin the process of reflective and intentive meditation. I opened the windows, closed my eyes and allowed my sensory experience to commence.
It was so refreshing to consume so much of what nature had to offer. This left my brain so clear that the words were ready to be put down on paper. I would write and let the words flow; when I read it, it was as if these words were handpicked to be shared. I alternated between meditating and writing; I also created tasks for myself with deadlines and made affirmations to be said daily. After this day, I decided to make this at least a monthly thing. You should try this for it will change your life!
If my blog were a baby, she would be at the point where she is more aware of her surroundings. She would try to talk, producing sounds unfamiliar to me, and mimic everything I do. We would both have that love and trust surrounded by unlimited happiness.
Six months ago, I decided to be brave enough to publish my first post publically and chose to keep the consistency. It was such a nerve-wracking experience as I was scared of the rejections I would face when I made myself vulnerable by sharing my inner thoughts to people other than my close friends.
I’m glad I took that jump for I no longer wanted to live in regret. I get such joy from writing, and the words flow so smoothly. I love the challenge I get from pushing myself to be more creative. I learn so much from others who share their stories with me after reading my blogs.
I thank all those who read my blogs and share your feedback and encouragement. It is a rewarding experience as I grow and expand. I urge you to share with others who you think would appreciate the content. I want to inspire as many people possible to reach their potential and stay on the path to be their best self!!
Eternal respect goes out to Maya Angelou for embodying her wisdom in her poem “Still I Rise” This poem is the testament for all melanated people around the world who keep thriving regardless of all the discrimination we face. Cheers to you and your ability to keep going, WE. GOT. THIS!!!
I have this friend that continually calls me a girl even though I remind them that I don’t identify with that word. They didn’t seem to understand the idea behind it, but I felt the need to explain my stance to prevent any further confusion. So the story goes like this:
“I made a conscious effort not to refer to myself as a girl anymore under any circumstances. Most people thought it was weird, but I connected the word girl with childish and finite things, and I didn’t want to associate myself with that any longer. I associated woman with growth, success, etc. and thus wanted to attract all these things, plus more, into my life.
When I made the transition from girl to woman, I had this metaphysical change. I was more willing to embrace changes as well as accomplish the goals I set out for myself. My poise changed and I became more graceful. You may not think that this was the only reason, but it was indeed the first flap in the butterfly effect. I am glad I made this decision!”
In life, you need to do what is best for you, and this was a great win for me.
I was on my way to a workshop about ‘having an entrepreneurial mindset.’ When checking in, I found this button with the letter F. It was catchy and colourful, and I was instantly drawn to it. Without looking at the associated company, the first word I linked F to was FORWARD. FORWARD came to mind because it reminds me of my journey:
How I kept pushing myself even though there were lots of barriers to the point where it became frustrating and confusing.
How I kept creating a momentum even though I thought it was insignificant.
How I never stopped entirely but kept cruising to my current point in life.
Also, when I think of Forward, Maurice Bishop comes to mind with the quote “forward ever, backward never.” He used this quote to inspire the country to obtain growth on various levels. This quote is so powerful that it shouldn’t only apply to nations, but people, as they are the ones that form a country.
Forward is being able to understand me enough to want to make changes/movements. Understanding myself comes from interacting with all situations that appear in my life — learning from every experience I encounter because I will adapt to my environment and consistently be creative.
Forward is always going irrespective to the progress I see from other people. Everyone is different, and as such, every movement is unique. So I never become discouraged when I see others going at ridiculous speeds. At times, It’s always good to take the scenic routes; I get to take in life and pick up some valuable lessons along the way.
Asking for a friend: How far do you go when calling someone out? What do you say? How would you deliver the call-out? Who would you call-out?
I vividly remember my first call-out, it was purely reflex, and I was surprised I did it. When I was 12, I decided to try out for the school’s netball team (got cut after a week). One day, we were queuing up, and one of the older girls said something negative with regards to a male teacher. I turned around and said, ‘why don’t you mind your own business.’ and she said, ‘catch you falling self*.’
I said nothing after that, but I was thinking about whether if it was my place to say something. From that moment, I stayed away from saying anything unless there was some verbal confirmation to do otherwise. I usually have full authority to go out on my friends, but I know it’s reciprocated. Sometimes I don’t say anything cause we all stubborn together and my words would be wasted. However, that goes out the window when it’s time to say I told you so.
I love it when people call me out: professional or otherwise. I appreciate knowing that people care enough to correct me when I’ve done something I shouldn’t be doing. I’m a firm believer that “ignorance is NOT bliss, it dangerous,” so I’m ready to learn. However, I don’t like it when someone feels the need to belittle me in their call-out.
In a professional setting; it would include shouting, using inappropriate work language, throwing me under the bus. In an intimate environment: shouting!! However, if we are close, I would allow those things if I did something stupid.
I’m all about growing from my mistakes, so I don’t mind anyone correcting me (as long as they’re respectful). I have my reservations when it comes to calling people out because they may not be as open-minded and might curse me out!