The Need to be Without (The sake of Your Sanity)

Unplugging and taking quiet time is the best gift you can give yourself. Refusing to succumb to the pull of the internet removes the cloud that confuses ones’ purpose. Just imagine in a typical day; you wake up with a list of goals you want to accomplish, but somehow the first thing you do is look at the updates on your phone and at this point, your focus shifts from taking care of your goals to fixating on trends. Then as you go throughout your day, during your commute and work, you sneak in moments where you “need” to answer a message or look at a post.

This occurrence becomes embedded in your daily lives to the point where feeding the addiction displaces accomplishing goals. Then, there comes the point where you have lost sight of who you are as a person. This displacement is real and dangerous; the addiction grows slowly and steadily while distracting its host into some alternate reality. The good news is that this addiction is reversible. The same way you convinced yourself to scroll through social media is the same way you can persuade yourself to close the application. Believe it or not, your world will not shatter if you don’t look at the trends multiple times a day.

Take some time during the day to turn off your phone and direct your attention to some other aspect of your life.

  • Go outside and rediscover nature; with the rapid consumption of technology, humans have strayed away from the divine cycle of the universe. The use of content has become more critical than self-care. Go outside and learn to re-appreciate the beauty and calming effects of nature.
  • Take the time to reflect on your past and present so that you can create targets for your future.
  • Try consuming as little artificial light as possible; the presence of artificial life affects the hormonal balance in the body.
  • Try Adopting early sleep and wake times; resting between the recommended hours does help holistically and waking up early allows you to accomplish some personal goals before you have to go into work.

Beatus Manifestationes,
Nomadic Free Spirit

Day of Creativity (Part II)

I committed myself to having a monthly “day of creativity”. A day where I would disconnect all devices, be in tuned with nature and release all the words that have been forcefully oppressed. I didn’t know what day I would choose; I thought about the same day each month, but that felt too predictable, and unlike me so I decided to let my body tell me when it was time. Many times I ignored my intuition and regretted it, so now I’m all for listening.

I had booked my birthday off intending to take a trip because I don’t work on my birthday anymore (a story for a future blog). I had the day off, and I had nothing planned because I couldn’t decide on anything and I couldn’t commit an extended trip because I had a workshop the following day. The first option was to do a day trip to somewhere in the UK but there wasn’t anything that stood out enough for me to have the tourist experience plus I didn’t give myself time to research places.

Then it came to me that I should use my birthday as the day to disconnect from the interweb to brew those creative juices. It would coincide with the year 2029 and a full moon. It was indeed a great time to reconnect with ones’ self.

Beatus Manifestationes,
Nomadic Mind Wanderer🦋🦉

Generational Curses 102: Parenting Styles

This post was inspired by a video I saw on Instagram which talks about “Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome.” It gives a brief explanation about why parents (descendants of slaves) behave the way they do. I found it quite insightful and helped me understand why I experienced certain things growing up as a child.

It’s no secret that how we behave stems from interactions with family, friends etc. What if these people were unaware of the traumas experienced by ancestors and classed their traits and mannerisms as cultural? What if they never learnt to question it? These behaviours would pass on and only worsen with each generation it encounters.

As a child growing up, I didn’t know the reasons for my parent’s practices; I only saw the outcome and wasn’t too happy about it. It was frustrating because I had so many questions but didn’t know who to ask, so I kept silent. Now that I’m working on healing from my childhood trauma, I now understand the reasons for their behaviour; it was based on survival. I am now more willing to forgive their actions and work on ending these patterns.

So here’s the video!

Lemme know your thoughts, I think it’s important that we start talking about generational curses and the effects so that we can heal from it.

Pax, Felicitatem et Viribus,
Nomadic Mind Wanderer

Generation Curses 101

During my introspection, the term ‘generational curse’ appeared a lot in my feed. It seemed like an entirely new concept as I couldn’t recall anyone speaking about it growing up. I did my research, but it was quite hard to find a proper definition. Based on what I read, I came up with this explanation.

Generational curses are misfortunes experienced based on negative traits inherited.

I heard the concept growing up. It was used to explain “why a person had a mental defect”, “experienced multiple miscarriages”, “involved in voodoo”, “poverty” or “experienced a karmic event”, to name a few.

I never thought much about it because it didn’t pertain to me. As I got older, I realise I was a victim on a smaller scale. I noticed that I deliberately sabotaged myself because I felt I wasn’t worthy to receive blessings. I often related these events to “not being my time” and continued coasting through life. I didn’t know better because I wasn’t taught better. Finding the root causes to heal was difficult, but I was able to categorise it into nature and nurture based.

Nature-Based:
I found out that descendants of slaves have modifications in how genes are expressed or suppressed in the body. Any trauma experienced by slaves tweaked how genes are regulated. This change can affect an individual on a physical, mental and spiritual level. Since descendants inherit DNA from their ancestors, all descendants acquire the change. This process is called Epigenetics. If you are not a descendant of slaves, the same theory can be applied if you had a traumatic event in your family’s history.

Nurture-Based:
It can also be developed by learning during interactions and observations. For example, if you are taught that your skin tone, body or hair type doesn’t fit a “recommended standard” you will forever try to change yourself. If negative thoughts surround you, you will go through life with a defeated mindset and never allow your light to shine at its brightest.

I’ve spoken to many people who’ve had these experiences. Therefore, I felt the need to write about this topic. The first step in growing is acknowledging that this problem exists.

Pax et Felicitatem,
Nomadic Mind Wanderer