I committed myself to address the stuff that keeps holding me back from flourishing. It turns out once I started, there were so many things that I learnt about myself. I started thinking a lot more about my toxic and positive traits. I realise I’m a beautiful soul just confused by everything that happens around me. I feel so much that it becomes too much to process, and I shut down. I have to come to notice that the entire universe responds through stimuli, a feeling. Embracing this and implementing it has been one of the most significant steps in my life.
“Just like moons and like suns, With the certainty of tides, Just like hopes springing high, Still I’ll rise.” Maya Angelou
I never give myself enough credit for overcoming situations in my life. I would focus more on what I lost than the good times in fear that they would end. I realise dwelling on the sad stuff was robbing me of the happiness which I created for myself and the potential for future happiness.
Why am I conditioned to fixate on that? I need to let go on the things that no longer serve me, and that is on the top of the list. I’m working on admiring the beauty of the garden as opposed to the flower that got crushed. I will always face disappointments, that’s a side effect of being alive, but how I react to it will affect future blessings.
I am such a blessing, and I should start acting this way. No amount of rubble can keep me from getting to the top. Getting comfortable should never be an option as it is the gateway to mediocrity. I know I deserve better in life; the battle is not listening to the voices that tell you otherwise.
I am more than my present circumstance, so I’m working on getting on the journey I want in my life. There will always be something preventing me from where I want to go; I just have to find a way around it to get back on the path.
It’s been two months since the beginning of the year and it’s time to check in:
How have you been?
Is your (mental, physical, spiritual, emotional) health ok?
Have you been saying your positive affirmations?
Have you been remaining positive?
Have you been accomplishing the goals you have set for yourself?
Have you been consistent with your objectives?
Have you been blessing the world with your magic?
Have you been loving yourself wholeheartedly?
Have you been tuning out the negativity?
Kudos to you if you have. I’m happy that you know your worth and you’re willing to maintain that level of consistency. I know there are days when curling up in a ball is the easiest thing, but you choose to go out there to shine bright. Remember you inspire people, so go out there and be that boss.
If you haven’t, there is still time to be your best self. You don’t have to wait until the end of the year, you can do it at any time with the right mindset. If you don’t feel like you are being pushed in that direction, it’s time to change your environment. Everyone is tasked to find their purpose in life; the longer you wait by engaging in distractions the further you are from your happiness. So do better and be better for your future self, success is waiting to be intimately acquainted with you. Sending positivity your way!
I meant to write this intro for the longest time; However, I didn’t feel it was the right time until now. As you may have seen on my blog, there is a section about this topic. I’m going to dive into different times where I should make peace with my past self. I feel it is time to forgive myself for setting the bar so high then guilting myself when I didn’t accomplish those tasks.
I learnt it is ok to go at my pace and that I determine when the speed/intensity increases. Comparing myself with others only made my self-esteem plummet. Getting older and experiencing so many things made it so important to be grateful for my existence on this physical plane. It is imperative to focus on embracing the positives even though it is minuscule in my eyes (so, therefore, it is so much more).
Waking up and returning home daily should be cherished because the uncertainty of death hits home so many times. I learnt to give myself time to be happy, to be sad, and being a workaholic, time to rest. I pay attention to all the signs that are presented by the universe. I am a creator in my own right so I intend to create things that will aid in the world’s blossoming. I now trust in myself to trust in the decisions I make. Overall, I need to know myself so I can take on any challenge I encounter.
At the tender age of six, Ruby Bridges advanced the cause of civil rights in November 1960 when she became the first African American student to integrate an elementary school in the South.
Born on September 8, 1954, Bridges was the oldest of five children for Lucille and Abon Bridges, farmers in Tylertown, Mississippi. When Ruby was two years old, her parents moved their family to New Orleans, Louisiana in search of better work opportunities.
Ruby and her mother were escorted by four federal marshals to the school every day that year. She walked past crowds screaming vicious slurs at her. Undeterred, she later said she only became frightened when she saw a woman holding a black baby doll in a coffin. She spent her first day in the principal’s office due to the chaos created as angry white parents pulled their children from school. Many parents withdrew their children permanently. Ruby ate lunch alone and sometimes played with her teacher at recess, but she never missed a day of school that year.
So many times we say things about ourselves that are so demeaning, and we wonder why things are so unfavourable for us. We put negative energy in the world to multiply and follow us. Even if it’s a joke; the words are still released in the same way. It’s one of the reasons you are to blame for your misfortunes. Be kind to yourself; praise yourself for all the things you have accomplished. You are terrific, and it is time you realise the impact your presence has on the universe.
The negative energy also applies when you say things about others as well. These words may be rooted in a place of jealousy, self-disappointment, anger, conditioning, etc. Everyone goes through their insecurities, and it never helps when you say (hear) something horrible about someone else (yourself) even if it’s a joke. I was talking to someone, and they said that they get bullied on their looks, and it was meant to be a joke. They said they were used to it and I had to remind them that it was not okay even if it was normalised.
Be kind to others; they are as valuable to the universe as you are, and their impact does shape the world as you know it. Words are so powerful that they can uplift or break a person down, which can change the course of their lives in the future. Words are misused so frequently cause we never take the time to understand its origins and potential impact. Challenge yourself to spread positivity with your power for you are powerful creatures.
If my blog were a baby, she would be at the point where she is more aware of her surroundings. She would try to talk, producing sounds unfamiliar to me, and mimic everything I do. We would both have that love and trust surrounded by unlimited happiness.
Six months ago, I decided to be brave enough to publish my first post publically and chose to keep the consistency. It was such a nerve-wracking experience as I was scared of the rejections I would face when I made myself vulnerable by sharing my inner thoughts to people other than my close friends.
I’m glad I took that jump for I no longer wanted to live in regret. I get such joy from writing, and the words flow so smoothly. I love the challenge I get from pushing myself to be more creative. I learn so much from others who share their stories with me after reading my blogs.
I thank all those who read my blogs and share your feedback and encouragement. It is a rewarding experience as I grow and expand. I urge you to share with others who you think would appreciate the content. I want to inspire as many people possible to reach their potential and stay on the path to be their best self!!
Eternal respect goes out to Maya Angelou for embodying her wisdom in her poem “Still I Rise” This poem is the testament for all melanated people around the world who keep thriving regardless of all the discrimination we face. Cheers to you and your ability to keep going, WE. GOT. THIS!!!
Our Hair, in all its amazingness, goes against gravity. It is diverse in nature and such can be adapted to suit a number of styles. Love the curliness cause your hair represents strength in unity (that’s why it’s it’s hard to detangle at times).
As part of “The Year of Mass Holistic Expansion” I set out some goals that I need to complete as part of the bare minimum to accomplishing this year. It started as a challenge I gave to my friends, new year resolution of sorts, but I decided to turn them into affirmations so that I can attract the necessary steps to get to the next level.
I am going to become more spiritual;
I am going to become more consistent with the tasks I set for myself;
I am going to continue with my blog and expand this brand I created;
I am going to continue to develop partnerships geared in expanding sponsorship programs;
I am going to creating avenues for multiples sources of income;
I am going to read more;
I am going to never allow my fears and doubts to get the best of me;
I am finally going kill the evil spirit of procrastination.
Every year I am fortunate enough to celebrate two new years; the one everyone celebrates based on the Gregorian calendar, and the other one is, of course, my birthday. The second one is much more special to me because it’s a celebration of my birth and a rededication of my commitment to be my most authentic self. This year, 19-28, was a fantastic year aside from the fact I will never acclimatise to winter for I will forever be a summer baby.
The year started in Barcelona; it was a refreshing experience seeing it for the second time around. It was still winter there was the sun shone in all its glory. I returned to the UK, and all my problems met me at the airport. That year I knew I wanted to leave my job, but I couldn’t just quit, and the job search was aimless because I didn’t know what my next step was going to be. At the moment, work was a bit bearable due to my work husband, but as he was leaving soon, the impending doom was quickly approaching. After he left, the reality of how much I disliked where I work hit me and I confessed to my manager that I wasn’t challenged.
Moving into the first quarter of the year, I was still stuck at my job, but I had a trip to Ibiza planned that made me excited. However, hearing that my dad was sick made me every concerned and taking a trip home was at the back of my mind. A week before I was supposed to go to Ibiza, I made the decision that I would go to Grenada instead. However, that didn’t happen, and I went both, and I never regretted the decision. Ibiza made me realised that I needed to reconnect with my spontaneous and adventurous side. I got to have the time of my life and met such amazing people plus I got sun which made me very happy…
Last year it finally stuck that consistency brought forth a successful outcome. I accomplished so much and started some of my longstanding goals. It is such a wonderful feeling knowing that I am not broken, just lazy. One day during my meditations, I realised that I have always been consistent; however, it was towards my bad habits.
I was consistent in NOT finishing my goals, holding onto negative emotions (hate, jealousy, anger, resentment, etc.), being lazy, self-doubt, and, the biggest of all, procrastination. I was so loyal to these negative aspects that I never linked it to the fact that it caused my stagnation. It was indeed my experience of Stockholm’s syndrome.
As I see it now, it was easy to be consistent with those traits because it felt safe, it was healthy for me, and I didn’t think I was strong enough to change. Now that I’ve demolished so many barriers since the year of 25, I’ve faced the negative aspects of myself and rewired my brain to understand the importance of being consistent and loyal to the right things.
It was a problematic process changing my mindset as there are so many distractions to revert me. Now that having a persistent mindset is more ingrained within me, it’s harder to go back to square one. I haven’t gotten to where I want to be as yet because it takes lots of self-dedication. However, every day I aim to increase my standards and get to that point. The hardest part was accepting responsibility for my results. Now that I overcame this hump, the journey became more natural for me.
No matter what stage you are in your life, you can get it right if you change your mindset and be consistent with the traits that will allow you to grow holistically.
The first Thursday thought of the new month, the new year, the new decade should be about pushing yourself. Last year was about the realisation of self-worth, now this year is about utilising the potential. What goals are you starting (and continuing) this year? Hope this gives you the push to get it going.
It’s a new year, and I usually like to have a theme to keep me focused as possible. Having a theme works for me because I like structure and organisation. Even though life laughs in my face, and I get some exciting twists having this mantra does help. At the end of the year, I assess whether the theme needs to be updated. Most times, all it needs is a tweak.
With lots of thought, I declare this year to be “The Year of Mass Holistic Expansion.” This means I will continue to do my best and allow myself to grow in all aspects without barriers.
For those who aren’t aware of my previous themes:
2019: The year of gratitude
2018: The year of new leaps
2017: The year of self-actualisation
2016: The year of self-acceptance
2015: The year of 25 – The disappearance of the rose-tinted glasses
Although this year will be “the year of mass holistic expansion,” I will continue to work on the previous themes. They were selected because I felt the need to work on those aspects of my life. Just because I have made massive progress doesn’t mean that I should completely forget them. Encountering these have brought about reflection and, guidance in selecting my subsequent theme. Wish you consistency, peace, hope and mass expansion!
I was on my way to a workshop about ‘having an entrepreneurial mindset.’ When checking in, I found this button with the letter F. It was catchy and colourful, and I was instantly drawn to it. Without looking at the associated company, the first word I linked F to was FORWARD. FORWARD came to mind because it reminds me of my journey:
How I kept pushing myself even though there were lots of barriers to the point where it became frustrating and confusing.
How I kept creating a momentum even though I thought it was insignificant.
How I never stopped entirely but kept cruising to my current point in life.
Also, when I think of Forward, Maurice Bishop comes to mind with the quote “forward ever, backward never.” He used this quote to inspire the country to obtain growth on various levels. This quote is so powerful that it shouldn’t only apply to nations, but people, as they are the ones that form a country.
Forward is being able to understand me enough to want to make changes/movements. Understanding myself comes from interacting with all situations that appear in my life — learning from every experience I encounter because I will adapt to my environment and consistently be creative.
Forward is always going irrespective to the progress I see from other people. Everyone is different, and as such, every movement is unique. So I never become discouraged when I see others going at ridiculous speeds. At times, It’s always good to take the scenic routes; I get to take in life and pick up some valuable lessons along the way.
I recently started a new job; aside from being in the honeymoon phase, I feel the stark difference in motivation to power through my day. When I started my first job in the UK, I was quite intrigued as I was about to immerse myself in an entirely new culture. It was quite easy as everyone was so helpful because, at some point in their life, they were in a similar position. That job was great, but after a year, I wanted career stability, so I opted for a transfer.
From the moment I started my entire mood changed. It was an excellent opportunity; however, the level of toxicity I encountered wasn’t worthwhile. Some people felt stuck/frustrated, and it showed. Also, I felt unchallenged after a couple of months, so I bored most of the time. My boredom did land me a project, during which I realise I enjoyed validations and project management. When the project was over, I was back at square one, but it was a bit hard to leave because I bought a flat, so I didn’t have the option of a dramatic exit.
It was a struggle coming to work each day because I had the worse commute, I was unfulfilled, physically and mentally drained. I never thought I would be a person excited for the end of the day or the weekend. I took steps to apply for jobs and get out of my comfort zone. Within a couple of months, I found a role in my desired field, and it was close to where I lived. I’m happy I leapt because I have more time to focus on myself.
Your body always knows when its time to move on, but based on underlying fears; you choose to stay. I realise this level of change is not possible for everyone, but there are small things you can change to improve the outcome. At least try before you give up.
Asking for a friend: How far do you go when calling someone out? What do you say? How would you deliver the call-out? Who would you call-out?
I vividly remember my first call-out, it was purely reflex, and I was surprised I did it. When I was 12, I decided to try out for the school’s netball team (got cut after a week). One day, we were queuing up, and one of the older girls said something negative with regards to a male teacher. I turned around and said, ‘why don’t you mind your own business.’ and she said, ‘catch you falling self*.’
I said nothing after that, but I was thinking about whether if it was my place to say something. From that moment, I stayed away from saying anything unless there was some verbal confirmation to do otherwise. I usually have full authority to go out on my friends, but I know it’s reciprocated. Sometimes I don’t say anything cause we all stubborn together and my words would be wasted. However, that goes out the window when it’s time to say I told you so.
I love it when people call me out: professional or otherwise. I appreciate knowing that people care enough to correct me when I’ve done something I shouldn’t be doing. I’m a firm believer that “ignorance is NOT bliss, it dangerous,” so I’m ready to learn. However, I don’t like it when someone feels the need to belittle me in their call-out.
In a professional setting; it would include shouting, using inappropriate work language, throwing me under the bus. In an intimate environment: shouting!! However, if we are close, I would allow those things if I did something stupid.
I’m all about growing from my mistakes, so I don’t mind anyone correcting me (as long as they’re respectful). I have my reservations when it comes to calling people out because they may not be as open-minded and might curse me out!